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A guest post by Jason Bollinger:

From before the time we were married, my wife and I talked openly and honestly about adoption. Due to fertility issues that seemed to be developing, we were forced to have conversations that had some significant weight to them. Those conversations ended with us believing that God had rooted parenthood firmly in our hearts, and we trusted that He would make us parents through adoption if not biologically by way of a miracle.

Four years into our marriage, the miracle happened, and we were blessed with a biological son. Life was good with him. So good, in fact, that we were never in a big hurry to press the issue of more children. We continued to talk about adoption from time to time. We had even sent some e-mails and gathered information, but we weren’t feeling that it was time to move forward.

A little further along the way, we started walking toward adoption. It was different this time. Walking through some adversity in our life showed us how content we were with our family threesome. Many of our friends’ families were expanding as ours had stalled, but we were strangely okay with that. What we were not okay with was that orphans around the world were laying their heads on their makeshift pillows at night with no hope and no mom and dad. The talk of adoption was no longer about adding to our family, it was about the Gospel. While we did like the thought of more children, our focus became centered on the rescue. There are kids in need of moms and dads. Let’s go get them.

Our theology of adoption was fairly weak at the time. As we walked through the process, it got better. Adoption is a theme throughout scripture. Our relationship with the Father, as follower of Christ, is best defined as a relationship of adoption. As you study Scripture, you see the Lord giving specific instructions about caring for the fatherless. From the old through the new, God’s heart is strong for the orphan. The more aware we became of this in Scripture, the more aware we became of the love that we’ve been given and the love we have to give. We’ve been blessed beyond measure, and we have blessing beyond measure to offer.

In the summer of 2010, we spent three months in Ukraine in pursuit of an orphan. Everything that could’ve gone wrong did, but the Lord used the adversity to bring us very, very close to Him. Through that closeness, we modified our home study and dossier to allow us to have more options. Going home empty-handed was not an option. If the Lord had different expectations of what our adoption was supposed to look like, we were fine with that.

After three months of battling, praying, trusting, hoping, failing, weeping, learning and eventually winning, something became very clear. We had much more to give than we thought. We went after one child, the Lord gave us two. We wanted a younger child so that we could have as much nurture time as possible, God gave us two girls with a very real knowledge of what they lived through. We were going for a smooth transition, we’ve had a pretty rough one. However, we did want what God wanted, and that’s what we got.

We underestimated our capacity for pouring out what God had poured into us. Adoption has allowed us to experience a level of faith and intimacy with God that nothing else in our life has come close to. Biblically, the call to care for orphans is clear. The pursuit of orphans purifies the Christianity in our heart and catapults us into the frontlines of trusting God. We’ve found that the Lord continually has more love to give, and that means we do too. Orphan care is the perfect avenue to test this theory. It seems most people underestimate the potential they have to be vessels of the love of God. The truth is that it’s up to God to do what He wants to do through you. It’s likely though, that He’s got bigger plans in mind for you than you do – maybe even related to adoption, but definitely in the world of orphan care.

Don’t underestimate how God may use you to change an orphan’s life forever. You also have more love to give than you think.

“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” (Ephesians 3:20-21 ESV)

Jason & Holly Bollinger pastor River Stone Community Church in San Marcos, Texas, and they blog on adoption & orphan care related issues at http://www.morelovetogive.com

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